You may sometimes ask yourself.. "What drives my life?." but you stop seeking those answers. You thought that 'twas just a waste of time. I tell you, it wasn't be a waste but it would help you to go on with your life.
Drive is something that controls or direct.
There are many values, circumstances or emotions that can drive our life. Maybe a painful memory or a fear drive your life right now. Among those many drives, these five are most common:
Driven by guilt
Driven by fear
Driven by materialism
Driven by resentment or anger
Driven by the need of approval
Among those mentioned above, I found my self driven by resentment or anger. According to the book of purpose driven life, people like me hold on to hurts and never get over them.
That's true, I can't release pain easily because it is hard for me to forgive anybody in just a blink of an eye. Instead of forgetting it, I rehearse it again and again in my mind. In fact, I remember the place, the date and the feeling of it.
"Clam up" or "Blow up" ?
I don't know where I belong, whether in those who "clam up" or those who "blow up".
People that internalize their anger are most commonly to "clam up" and those that explode their anger are commonly to "blow up".
But after reading that book, I just learned that both are unhealthy. In fact, it made me realize. That I was just hurting my self more than the person I resent. S/He may forgot what s/he does, the way s/he offended me and go on with her/his life. I saw her/him happy and I think s/he's trying to forget the past.
It will by my lost , if I'm going to rehearse the pain. Foolish Thing :)))
In some other sites, they states that resentment will only blemish the wonderful memories of your life.
In Chapter 3 of PDL book, it emphasizes that those who have hurt you in the past will no longer to hurt you unless you hold in pain through resentment .You are just hurting yourself more than the person you resent. You are just hurting your self through bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.
It also added that "to worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do".
In Chapter 3 of PDL book, it emphasizes that those who have hurt you in the past will no longer to hurt you unless you hold in pain through resentment .You are just hurting yourself more than the person you resent. You are just hurting your self through bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.
It also added that "to worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do".
